Your life, your song

Am a big fun of music. I like all kinds. A few months ago while looking for new music on the internet for my music library I stumbled upon this new artist I had never heard of before, Alesia Cara. Her debut album called know it all. I got to admit, what really caught my attention was the album cover. It’s simple and the artist on it looked young. The track list also kind of had unique titles unlike most pop albums. It all made me want to listen to the album.

A few songs into the album, I liked it already. She has a different way of writing her music different from most young pop stars. And the themes she addresses are not what you would hear in most pop albums. She’s mature than most of her peers in terms of writing skills.

One song that caught my attention very much is the one called “my song”. It’s a simple song with simple message that has a lot of meaning. The song equates life to a song. Your life, your song.

The song generally talks about how we are all told how to live our lives and what’s normal and not normal to do. The standards were expected to conform to and everything else we are supposed to be and avoid. It just talks about how sometimes people try to control how we live our lives and who we become.

It’s normal as kids to be told what’s right and what’s wrong, what’s safe and what’s dangerous. This is done by the different people we come in contact with from our parents, teachers, friends etc. Considering that at this age, we are not able to make good informed decisions, it’s a good thing because it protects us from harm and helps us to become people who are responsible.

As we get older we get to decide for ourselves what kind of a person we are going to be and how we are going to live our lives. We get to make choices about what our values and standards in life are going to be regardless of what we were told or taught as kids. We get to choose what our song is going to sound like.

It’s our everyday choices and decisions that make up our song. The small and the big ones. The critical and the not so important ones. It’s these decisions and choices that together make the melodies and harmonies of our lives.tumblr_o1haonynuw1r2fr72o1_500

People will always tell you who you should be and how you should live your life. But ultimately, it’s your choice. It’s your choice to be whoever you want to be in life. the fact is not everyone is gonna like the different choices we make in life but if these choices bring us happiness and joy ,then don’t mind everyone else saying anything different.

You don’t have to be anything except that which you want and that which you are sure will make you happy and bring joy to those around you. You don’t have to sing anything other than what makes you come alive.

Alessia Cara-my song:https://youtu.be/YI4mvJrX1FE?t=5

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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You don’t have an endless amount of time

As dark and depressing as this may sound, I often sit there and reflect on the concept of death. About how I can make my life the best life it can be before I die. I am more than aware that life is…

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Our Artificial Selves

via Daily Prompt: Artificial

Today we live in a world where technology is all over the place. We’re able to do things that a couple of years ago would have been thought of as impossible .talk of Instant messaging, etc.  This technologically advanced world we live in today has a combination of both positive and negative effects on all of us. One of those negative effects is we have lost the natural way of doing things. We are becoming more and more artificial in the way we live our lives.

The dictionary defines artificial in a number of ways some of which are insincere, false, and unnatural. By saying we are becoming more and more artificial, in other ways it means we are becoming more and more insincere, false and unnatural.

Due to the advancement in technology and everything else, as a people we have lost the sincerity and authenticity our forefathers used to have. Today most of what we see in the media, news, and social media has in a very profound way shaped our way of thinking, and doing things. The media has given us the standards of what a healthy person is, of what beauty is and what a happy life is. Sadly most of these standards aren’t as true as they claim to be.

In trying to keep up with these false standards that we see in the media, most of us are losing our true self. We are becoming less authentic and more of pretenders. We are slowly living artificial lives whose only aim is to fit in and be liked by the masses while we are losing touch with who we actually are on the inside.

Today most of us are people pleasers who would do anything and whatever it takes to get a couple of likes on facebook or instagram etc. we have attached our value and worthy to the likes, comments we get on these social Medias. As simple as this may look to other people, it actually is a big problem in the long run because we get used to this life of trying to get more likes that we forget what we are outside of these likes and comments.

In all honesty I wouldn’t say I haven’t been caught up in this chaos myself, I have. But the more I lean of who I truly am and my true value, the less am concerned with what other people think and how many likes I get on Facebook or any other social media.

The sad thing about trying to fit in and be liked by everyone is that it is stressful and a never ending struggle. We can’t please everyone every time and that’s the truth.

Until we learn what’s truly important and are aware and happy with our true selves, we are going to continue living this artificial lives which sadly never really does bring any true happiness.

 

 

AMONG THE MILLIONS

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I have never been that much into girls, not really. Probably why some people say am a little weird. I wouldn’t say I don’t like girls or anything I just have never been that serious about them as some other guys are. Am not gay though..lol

Now that am growing up, am expected to be putting little more effort into pursuing girls than I normally have in the past. Show some interest in one or two for starters. It’s normal I guess.

I have been told am a little childish for someone my age. They say I should be more serious and stop being silly most of the time. They say with this childishness of mine, I will never find a serious girl. They say I should be a little more serious or will always be single. In other ways am told to change and become someone else I honestly don’t this is that fun.

To be honest, I like being a little silly. It’s those silly moments that am the happiest. Its those not so serious moments that I find life really fun and if I was to stop doing that I don’t think I would be as happy as I am now that am still silly at times.

Regardless of what I have been told, I don’t think am ready to stop being a little silly just for me to get a girl. I believe that someone out there is still going to let me be part of her life regardless of being this silly. I believe that among the millions of girls out there, there is someone who is going to like me for me and my silly personality. So until then am not changing and becoming someone who is always serious about everything and never silly at all. I believe life is fun with a little silliness.

STOP AND QUESTION

Every day since our childhood, we have been told, shown and taught different things. Either consciously or subconsciously. Through words, reading, media and any other ways of communication that’s out there.

We have been told what’s wrong and what’s right and knowingly or unknowingly these are the things that have shaped our lives. These are the things that have made us who we are and what we do and how we   live our lives.

Today we live in a world where we are bombarded with information almost each and every second that we hardly have time to stop and think over the truthfulness or the authenticity of whatever we are told and shown. Ignorantly without any thought we grab and hold on to these things and use them in our daily lives without questioning them at all.

Considering all the information that we have been given and received since our childhood up to now, its quiet logical to see the necessity of questioning and critically analyzing the information before grasping and taking it into our lives. And the fact that this information decides what kind of a life we live, is one more reason to STOP AND QUESTION any piece of it before diving into it

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Questioning things about yourself and the world around that you have held on to for the most part of your life is quit frightening and scary. We are scared of being disappointed. We fear being on the wrong side of the equation.

Regardless of the possible pain and disappointment we may face upon questioning our values and believes, it still is a necessary exercise that in the long run is quite helpful.

By question our values and any other aspect of our lives, we get a pretty good idea of what we want in life and are able to adjust our behavior and values with our goals. Plus it’s a good way of defining ourselves in our own terms. Question also helps us to get a clear picture of who other people are and we are able to respect others regardless of the differences since we know who we are outside anyone else.

Questioning about things in life won’t always give us satisfactory answers or might not even give us any answers at all sometimes. Truthfully, it also is an exercise that might seem boring and hard and time wasting. Regardless let’s make questioning an important part of our daily decision making process because it is only though questioning that were able to understand who we are and the world around us.

So decide today to stop and question any aspect of your life before letting anything be a part of your life.

BEFORE I DIE

For the past few days or so, I have been watching videos on a YouTube channel called TED. I don’t really know what the translation of TED is but they say it’s a group of ideas (in video form) that are worthy spreading. And personally I think most of them are.

I started doing this as one way of improving my personal life because I personally think there are a lot of great things that can be learned from these talks.

So today I was watching one of their talks and it was one of those talks I think I have heard before but it kind of brought a new perspective in my life. The title of the talk is “before I die”.

Just at first glance I knew I had to watch it and am glad I did. The speaker was a young woman who had experienced loss of a family member a few years back and this loss brought a new perspective into her life.

In her speech she said the loss of her mother made her realize how precious life is and how she (and I everyone else) should value each and every second that they are alive.

Realizing that she (and everyone else) won’t live forever and that we all have a limited time to be alive and do whatever we dream of, she started a project where she would find an unused public space and try to invite people to show and write with chalk on a wall what they want to do before they die.

As I watched this inspiring video I realized that I too have a couple of things I want to do before I die. One of which is to be able to play a guitar. Yea a guitar. It’s been one of my childhood dreams up to today.

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Think about all that you wish to do before you die and maybe write them down somewhere, share those dreams with someone you trust and find ways to be or do those things before you die. These are the things you probably have wanted to do since you were a little kid and you know they are things that will definitely put a smile on your face.

Life is generally hard but it’s also fun when you are being and doing what makes you happy.

Right now I want you to finish this statement and fill in the blanks:

Before I die I want to …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….

 

AN OPPORTUNITY TO GROW

A few days ago I got erected as the general activities coordinator for college of Medicine Catholic Students organization for the 2016-2017 academic year.

I have to say it was surprising to me to be nominated for that position late alone erected. It’s something I didn’t expect at all since I don’t think I have been that active there.

If you were to ask anyone who knows me, you would probably hear that am the kind of guy who doesn’t really like to be in the spotlight. I don’t like being the center of attention. I like being in a group but just a few people knowing who I am. I like being the kid you see around but have no idea who he actually is.  In simple terms I don’t like attracting attention. That’s just me.

That being the case, now you probably know why I was surprised that people actually voted for me since I thought not many actually know me there. But well I was wrong.

Even though it was shocking, I just had to accept it. It is what it is, the people have entrusted me with this responsibility.

I planned on never getting any leadership position the whole of my life in college. The reason is simple, I don’t like attention.

Now that I have this responsibility, it’s a whole new change as far as my life is concerned. I know it might not seem that much of a deal to some people but for me, it is. I haven’t had any leadership position since 2012 when I was in secondary school.

To be honest am a bit scared and unsure of how I am going to do this. It’s a pretty challenging responsibility for me. It’s a position that requires someone different from who I naturally am.

This means I am going to have to step out of my comfort zones if am to do this very well. Am going to have to do things I naturally would avoid or hide from.

I could look at this whole thing as a bad thing, something to complain about and be afraid of or I could look at it as a chance for me to learn leadership and also personal skills. A chance to expand my comfort zone. A chance to be a better person. And I choose to go with the later. I chose to look at this responsibility as a chance to grow and be better.

The reality is it’s not going to be an easy ride. It’s going to be challenging all the way. Am sure am going to make a tone of mistakes along the way. Am going to fail sometimes and all I can do is learn from those mistakes and do better the next time.

I don’t think am ready for this responsibility, but I know I am going to do it to the best of my ability. I am going to give all I can and be the best I can be at this with the help of the other committee members, my friends and God.

Life is full of surprises and challenges, we can’t avoid them all and sometimes all we can do is accept them, and give it our best shot and learn from the mistakes we make.